Welcome to the Misfits in love
A Relational Habitat for Practice, belonging, and lived experience
Since 2019, Misfits has been a home in Los Angeles for people exploring non-traditional ways of relating. Today, it’s evolving into a relational habitat — experiential, interactive spaces where you can feel what actually happens in your body when you’re with other people.
Most of us were never taught how to stay connected to ourselves while being in connection.
We learn about communication, boundaries, and authenticity—but in real moments, it’s easy to lose track of what we feel, override ourselves, or fall back into familiar patterns.
If traditional ways of relating don’t quite fit… or you’ve experienced connection but something still feels missing, you’re not alone.
This space was created for that.
Here, we move beyond default scripts and into lived experience. We question what we’ve been taught, explore what actually feels true, and begin to shape relationships that are aligned, meaningful, and our own…through practice, reflection, and shared experience.
This space is for:
People of all genders, orientations, and ways of relating
Those who feel curious, in-between, or not fully at home in traditional relationship structures
Monogamous, non-monogamous, and everything in between
Those unlearning inherited patterns and exploring new ways of being in connection
Anyone drawn to relational growth through embodied, lived experience
Those who value honest conversation, shared reflection, and community support
how we Practice
Misfits in Love is a community rooted in lived experience. Rather than only talking about how we want to relate, we practice it together. Our two core embodied practices are different doorways into the same inquiry: what happens to what I want, feel, and know to be true once another person enters the picture - and how do I act from that truth?
🖤 Misfits in Touch A warm, consent-based relational practice space for exploring boundaries, choice, co-regulation, attuned connection, and optional platonic touch through direct experience. 👉Explore Misfits in Touch
🌀Practice A smaller relational lab where we slow down real moments of interaction through movement, awareness, experimentation, and play - noticing what happens in ourselves while we're with another person and discovering where we have more choice—revealing patterns of relating that often go unnoticed 👉Explore Practice
The living archive
Misfits has been evolving since 2019, and the community itself has always been part of that evolution. Every gathering leaves something behind - a question, a discovery, a story, a new experiment, a different way of seeing ourselves or each other.
The Living Archive is where some of those reflections are gathered and shared. It's an ongoing record of what we're learning together about connection, relationship, belonging, and being human 👉 Explore the Living Archive (coming soon!)
Want to join the misfits Community?
Misfits in Love is our larger relational habitat - the community that grows around and between these practices through conversation, reflection, friendship, gatherings, invitations, and everyday life.
Because this is a relational community, we believe the best way to enter it is relationally.
Rather than applying online, we invite you to first attend Misfits in Touch or Practice. You'll get to experience the culture, shared agreements, and ways we practice consent, choice, presence, and mutuality - and we'll get to experience being in community with you, too.
After you've practiced with us in person, if it feels like a mutual fit, you'll be invited into our private Misfits in Love WhatsApp community.