misfits in touch:
a relational practice space
Practice being yourself in connection—with other humans, in the moment.
Think: a gym for connection
You might find yourself about to say yes…then pausing, and realizing you can actually choose.
Craving real human connection without pressure, performance, or expectation?
This space is especially resonant for people who are already self-aware—but want to actually live that awareness in connection with others. 👉 See upcoming dates + tickets
What is Misfits in Touch?
Most of us were never taught how to stay connected to ourselves while being with other people.
We learn about boundaries, communication, and authenticity—but in real moments, it’s easy to:
say yes when we mean no
override what we feel
lose ourselves in the interaction
Misfits in Touch is a relational practice space for people craving connection that doesn’t ask you to perform, impress, or escalate—a place where closeness isn’t tied to dating, sex, or social bravado.
Rather than teaching ideas about connection, this space offers something different:
a place to practice being yourself—while you’re actually with other people.
Through facilitated, step-by-step exercises, you’ll practice listening to your body, honoring your boundaries, and engaging in connection at a pace that feels right for you.
Touch here isn’t expected, required, or sexual…it’s a practice in felt consent rather than performance.
This is not about pushing past edges or forcing vulnerability.
It’s about building the capacity to stay with yourself in connection…one moment at a time.
Here’s what it looks like in practice…
What Happens In the space
Each gathering is gently guided and follows a clear, intentional flow—so you’re never left wondering what to do or how to connect.
Rather than being dropped into unstructured interaction, you’re supported step by step, with just enough structure to help connection feel natural and accessible.
We begin by arriving together…settling into the space and into ourselves.
From there, you’ll be guided through simple, practical ways of noticing your boundaries, expressing what feels true, and connecting with others at your own pace.
As the space opens, there’s room to explore connection more freely…whether that looks like conversation, shared stillness, or optional, consent-based touch. You might find yourself laughing with someone new, pausing to feel a “no,” or simply sitting nearby and feeling part of the room without needing to do anything at all.
We close by grounding and integrating, so you leave feeling more settled, connected, and in touch with yourself.
What this Is Not
Not a dating event
Not sexual
Not a space where touch is required
Not about pushing past your edges
What you’ll Practice
Through guided exercises, reflection, and optional partner or group interactions, you’ll practice how to:
sense your own capacity
communicate your yes and no clearly - all without justification
stay connected to yourself while being with others
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This workshop is for you if you:
feel disconnected, isolated, or craving more community
want closeness that doesn’t have to become romantic or sexual
are touch-curious, touch-cautious, or rebuilding comfort with closeness
want better communication + boundaries in friendships, dating, or partnership
are single or partnered — and want more relational nourishment in your life
want a Los Angeles community space that’s warm, intentional, and consent-forward
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This workshop may not be a fit if you are:
Seeking sexual or erotic experiences
Looking for therapy or emotional processing
Unwilling to take responsibility for your own pacing and care
We name this clearly so the space can remain safe and aligned for everyone.
🎟 Upcoming Dates + Tickets
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Saturday, July 11th 7pm-12am
Save the date for this 5-hour immersion that invites you to slow down and rediscover connection as something spacious, grounding, and nourishing where closeness can be deeply nourishing without pressure or the need to escalate. Immerse With Us
FAQs
(read this if you’re nervous - you’re not alone)
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No. This is a platonic, consent-based space.
Any touch is optional, non-sexual, and always happens through clear, mutual consent.
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No. Participation is always a choice. You may observe, modify, or opt out of any exercise.
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Yes - many people do. The workshop is designed to be accessible and welcoming, especially for people who are curious but unsure.
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That’s completely okay. This space is designed for discovering what feels like a yes, no, or maybe in your body—not having it all figured out ahead of time.
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Totally welcome. There’s structure, clear agreements, and lots of permission to go slow.
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Wear comfortable clothing that allows for ease of movement—t-shirts, pajamas, leggings, or sweatpants all work well. You’re welcome to change when you arrive
Minimum coverage is mid-thigh shorts and a tank top
Shoes will be taken off by the door and we’ll be on a padded area on the floor. Socks are optional
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Please arrive sober so you can give and receive clear consent
Come clean and fresh—this makes closeness more comfortable for everyone
Avoid perfumes, cologne, essential oils, or scented products
Please avoid cigarette smoke before arriving
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No. This is a guided, skills-based relational practice space.
While many people find it supportive, it’s not therapy or clinical care.
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Spots are limited and held with care for each participant. Because of this, tickets are non-refundable and can’t be applied to future events.
If you’re feeling unwell, please stay home—refunds or credits will be offered in those cases to help keep the space safe for everyone.
If something unexpected comes up and you’re able to let us know in advance, we’ll do our best to offer a credit.
For missed events without notice, we’re not able to offer transfers or credits. You’re always welcome to gift your spot to a friend if you can’t attend.
We recommend adding the event to your calendar after registering so it stays in your awareness.
A Note on Loneliness & Touch
Many people associate workshops like this with desperation or lack.
We name this directly because it’s not true.
Misfits in Touch is not about fixing something that’s broken. It’s about practicing skills most of us were never taught in a culture that is deeply touch-scarce and socially fragmented. It reflects living in a culture where safe, platonic touch and attuned presence are rare.
Longing for connection does not mean something is wrong with you.
People who attend are:
socially active yet still longing for depth
single or partnered, and curious
confident, tender, and self-aware
“I came in nervous and left feeling calm, seen, and more confident in my boundaries.”
“So much more structured and safe than I expected. I felt genuinely cared for.”
“I didn’t do much touch and I still got so much out of it.”
FACILITATOR BIO
host + facilitator - Stella Stardust (she/they) passionately brings community together by facilitating events with the purpose of creating more authentic connection and meaningful dialogue. She has 20+years of teaching yoga, meditation, and shamanism, and is also trained in conflict resolution as a certified mediator. Her work lies at the intersection of somatics, spirituality, and social change. Read more about Stella here
events also listed on…
Plura Community
Want to see who's going, match, chat, and meet the community? Check out Cuddle Class on the Plura Community app here
Meetup for Misfits In Love
An experiential learning space for people who want to create relationships by felt truth rather than inherited scripts. More info here
SPLA (Sex Positive Los Angeles)
SPLA is a member/volunteer organization centered around understanding and exploring all aspects of human sexuality, consent, relationship styles, kink, gender, and orientation. More info here.
*At check-out, you’ll be asked to have read and review our WAIVER AND RELEASE OF LIABILITY here and agree that you fully understand its contents and to voluntarily agree to the terms and conditions stated.